How to break the news

Sit down with your child and, along with your spouse, explain that you are getting a divorce. Speak honestly and simply, but skip the ugly details. Admit that the experience will be sad.

Make sure your child understands that divorce is only between adults. Remind your child — repeatedly — that he or she did nothing to cause the divorce and that both of you love your child as much as ever.

Also tell your child's teacher, school counselor and doctor about the divorce. They can observe your child, keep you updated on any concerns and offer guidance.