Talk to your partner

The next step in reclaiming your sexuality is to talk with your partner about your feelings. At first, this may be best accomplished by talking to each other fully clothed, at the kitchen table or in another neutral setting.

Sex can be difficult to talk about. Begin your sentences with "I" rather than "you." For example, "I feel loved and cared about when you hold me close" is more likely to invite dialogue than "You never touch me anymore."

This is the time for both of you to talk about your fears and desires. You may think that your partner has stopped touching you because he or she has lost interest, or finds you undesirable. Instead, your partner may be fearful of causing you more physical pain or discomfort.