Dealing with differences in desire

Differences in libidos are common among couples of all ages. Couples can become stuck in a pattern where one person initiates contact while the other avoids it. If you mainly avoid sex, consider taking charge of some engagement. If you usually initiate sex, try talking with your partner about what you need.

If you're worried about hurting your partner's feelings, talk about your experience using "I" statements, such as "I think my body responds better when �." In turn, try to understand your partner's needs and desires. Together you can find ways to accommodate both your needs.