Nurture existing family relationships

A child entering a newly blended family might feel torn between the parent with whom he or she primarily lives and the other parent. Remarriage also can cause a parent to spend less time with a child, resulting in feelings of abandonment or competition.

To reassure your child and prevent him or her from feeling overwhelmed by change, spend time nurturing family relationships that existed before the creation of your stepfamily. For example, plan special activities or outings that involve only you and your child.

Also, be careful not to make negative comments about the other parent — regardless of your feelings for him or her.