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Teens and sex: Protecting your teen's sexual health

Discussing birth control options

Understanding birth control methods is an important life skill for everyone. Whether your teen decides to have sex or wait, make sure your teen knows how to prevent pregnancy and protect himself or herself from sexually transmitted infections.

Condoms

Stress the importance of always using condoms during sex, even if your teen is using a second form of contraception.

  • Consistent and correct use of condoms is the most effective way for sexually active teens to protect themselves from sexually transmitted infections.
  • Condoms help prevent pregnancy.

Prescription birth control

Various prescription contraceptives can help prevent teen pregnancy. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists encourages adolescents to consider long-acting reversible contraception first — including intrauterine devices and contraceptive implants — as these options are highly effective with little thought required.

Prescription birth control options that help prevent teen pregnancy include:

  • Intrauterine devices (Mirena, Skyla, Paragard)
  • A contraceptive implant (Nexplanon)
  • Combination birth control pills
  • The contraceptive patch (Xulane)
  • The vaginal ring (NuvaRing)
  • The contraceptive injection (Depo-Provera)

Your teen will need to see a doctor to get a prescription for these types of contraceptives. Before scheduling the appointment, find out if she would prefer to see a female doctor.

Explain to your teen that the doctor likely will:

  • Review medical history
  • Go over the risks and benefits of different types of birth control

The doctor will also conduct a pelvic exam if your teen chooses an intrauterine contraception method.

Make sure your teen understands that prescription birth control isn't a replacement for condoms. Prescription birth control helps prevent pregnancy, but it doesn't offer protection from sexually transmitted infections.

Emergency birth control

Explain to your teen that it's always a good idea to make a decision about birth control before having sex. However, emergency contraception — such as the morning-after pill levonorgestrel (Plan B One-Step, Next Choice One Dose, Take Action) or ulipristal (ella) — can help prevent pregnancy if your teen doesn't plan ahead or contraception fails.

  • Plan B One-Step is available over-the-counter without a prescription.
  • Next Choice One Dose and Take Action, are available over-the-counter for those age 17 and older and by prescription for girls younger than age 17.
  • Ella is available only with a prescription from your doctor or health care provider.

Make sure your teen understands that emergency contraception must be started as soon as possible after unprotected intercourse. The sooner the pills are taken, the more likely they are to be effective, though they may be taken up to 5 days (120 hours) after unprotected intercourse.

Natural family planning

If use of contraception goes against your values, you might consider talking to your teen about natural family planning, which involves abstaining from sex during a woman's most fertile days.

Keep this in mind:

  • Natural family planning methods aren't as effective as prescription birth control and don't offer protection from sexually transmitted infections.
  • Effective use of natural family planning methods requires diligence and planning — and teen sex is often unplanned.
  • Teen girls commonly have irregular menstrual cycles, which can make it difficult to assess fertility signs.

Don't be afraid that talking to your teen about contraception will encourage him or her to have sex. Your teen is likely curious about sex and contraception, whether or not you bring up the topic. By being open and honest, you can help your teen make informed decisions and act more responsibly when he or she decides to have sex — whether it's now or years in the future.

If you're having trouble talking to your teen about contraception, ask your teen's doctor for help. He or she may offer advice on how to talk to your teen and accurately answer questions about contraception.